For most Chinese women, the wedding day is probably the most important day in their lives. If you are lucky enough to find a wonderful lady through Chnlove Club, and decide to marry her in the Chinese way, then you will need to know the Chinese wedding rituals and customs. Some of these rituals have been lost in the course of history, but many are observed even today. In what follows, we will explain some of the common rituals on the wedding day, which are still prevailing in most parts of China.
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On the day of the wedding, the bridegroom will pick up the bride at the bride’s home. Similar to the western culture, the bride and bridegroom will be accompanied by bridesmaids and best men and they are usually still non-married. A “door game” will be played, which implies that the bride is a lovely girl and her family and friends do not want to marry her away. The groom will be blocked at the bride’s door, and her friends will try to stop him from entering by asking questions about the bride, a way to test if he really cares about her. They may also do other tricks to delay the bride’s leaving. The groom will try to buy his way in by presenting “Li Shi”, token money wrapped in red envelops. Door game is a joyous and good-natured “bargain” game essential in Chinese wedding.
The couple-to-be will then go to the bridegroom’s home, where the bride will greet her parents-in-law to be. If they choose to go to the bridegroom’s home, the young couple will have to greet the parents-in-law to be with a cup of tea each and the parents will return the daughter-in-law to be with a red packet of money inside.
At the wedding banquet
One very important procedure of a Chinese wedding is the banquet. All relatives and friends will be invited and they will wish the new couple with all the best. At the banquet, the newly wed has to drink half glass of wine for a pair of glasses linked by a ribbon. After that the newly wed has to cross-hand and drink the other half of the wine. It is believed that after this ceremony the newly wed will love each other more dearly.
Certain types of food are commonly served at the Chinese wedding banquet, which include fish, roast suckling pig, pigeon, chicken cooked with red oil, lobster and desert bun with lotus seeds stuffed inside. These foods are chosen because they have similar pronunciations to some auspicious words. For example, the pronunciation of fish is the same as “abundance”, meaning the newlyweds will have plentiful of wealth. Roast suckling pig is usually served whole, a symbol of the bride’s purity (virginity).
After the wedding banquet
After the banquet, friends of the new couple will usually continue the night by deliberately disturbing the new couple with a few games. Games will include different quests for some difficult performances or questions. Unfortunately to the newly wed that these games usually last till very late in the night!